Simplify simply means to make less complex or complicated; make plainer or easier. This is the very time where making things less complicated is necessary. There is so much going on all around us we can not afford anything unnecessary to remain attached to us. This is a great time to reassess and release!

First of all, let your WHY be your compass. There are so many good things to do, but every good thing is not a God thing. What I've come to understand is that many of us are “fixers.” What is a fixer? You know, every time there is a problem you want to or think that you have to fix that problem. This is so common because many of us were raised by and around fixers. So, in many ways, our environment groomed us to be this way. There is nothing wrong with supporting or serving others, but ask yourself if that is what you’re supposed to be doing.

You may think that having your hand in SO many things make you look noble, but it ultimately makes you look tired! Ouch, I felt that one myself. Ask yourself why you’re doing whatever it is and proceed or not. Many fixers help everyone else and often time end up neglecting themselves. A common trait of a fixer is one who thinks or says, what about me? Hmmmmm another one is, "I do everything for everyone else and who does anything for me?" If you are a fixer, free yourself today. Start with supporting yourself. Why should you support yourself, because you must first love on you so that loving on others will not be done begrudgingly or with resentment. Take yourself back from whatever you have given too much of yourself too by allowing your "why" to be your compass.

Release yourself from the parenting guilt. No one saw this pandemic coming, and no one thought this would stick around this long. We are on the brink of beginning a new school year with the same, if not more concerns that we ended the school year with. If your kids are doing virtual, in-person, or hybrid learning no one has all of the answers. We are all doing what we think is best for our families. If there was ever a time to not get caught up in the comparison trap it’s right now! Don’t judge the parent who has to work and sends their children to school, or the parent who chooses to allow their children to learn from home. We don’t know each other’s situation and frankly, it’s not our business.

Remember stretched too thin is not your portion. There are 7,989 Zoom calls , 99,654 Facebook Lives going on all while your phone is ringing, text messages dinging, your trying to manage your household, eat right, workout, drink water, and read your Bible. Sis, it’s too much! Let something go! Every person can not have your ear this season. There are a lot of voices saying a lot of things, if you pay attention, your spirit will lead you to the place where you should lend your ear. It’s okay to unsubscribe to some things and say, “that’s just not where I am right now.” You may come back around to it or not. Some things are for a moment, some people come full circle, and some are only for a season.

Learn your limits and set your boundaries. Let that text or a mail sit for a minute, everyone doesn’t require and immediate response from you. My favorite phrase lately is “let me get back with you.” That gives me time to think to consider if I can or even want to participate. Also, let me release someone today, you can say NO without a follow-up reason. NO is a small word but strong enough to stand on it’s own. Don’t feel the need to make up a false reason to validate your response. Nine times out of ten what happens when you don't issue a firm NO, that person usually comes back and asks you again later for something else. It doesn't matter what their need is, it's too much availability on your end that they have become familiar with. Find your focus in this season. If your yes to someone else is a no to you and takes away your focus, you may want to rethink that one. Often times people will be okay with a no, and if they are not you may need to reassess that relationship.

When you get quiet enough to listen for God, then listen TO him. I’ve said it before and I still stand by this, you will realize that everyone and everything is not your assignment. I pray daily....

“Lord show me the thing you would have to do today. Help me recognize if I have my hand in things that you have taken your hand off of. Give me wisdom as I follow you and not people, discernment to recognize the difference, and the discipline to always choose what’s right.”

Amen

As always give yourself some grace, you can do whatever it is. I am always here cheering you on.

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Virtual Hugs,

Timeka

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