I'm so glad that you are here. Listen I am excited that I have officially given my blog a name, a purpose and a mission. Instead of calling it the blog I have named it:
The “Simplified Chaos” Blog
I felt this title was perfect because this will be a place where I tackle the pain points with articles of discussion on simplifying yourself, simplifying the household , and simplifying the family. As Moms we have so many things to do, chaos always tries to sneak in and take over and that’s not happening on my watch. M'kay!!!!
That's what I want to help provide for you as I do the same for myself... brief articles of conversations to help simplify that chaos. There you have it “Simplified Chaos.”
How often do we get so wrapped up in doing all the things and being all the things that we live on auto pilot? We use terms like"supermom" or "superwoman", and that’s fine if those are terms that you like to refer to. Let me ask you a question, when was the last time you saw an image of superwoman looking tired and worn out?
Every time I see an image, she is embodying a strong and confident looking woman. So, even superwoman obviously knew when to rest and recharge. Let’s start there!
Rest and Recharge
We must take off the judgements and expectations that others have put on us and even those that we have put on ourselves. When we get caught up in what we should do as a woman, a wife, a mother, even a person it’s a heavy weight to carry.
What is it that you feel that you should to do?
What is it that you actually need to do?
Normally those have two different answers if you think hard enough. I learned that “should” is a judgement word. Who says what you “should" be doing, and who made the official rules to any role that you walk in?
There was a time when I thought I had to be the best at all stereotypical "woman" things and if not, I was coming up short and that looked like failure to me. I released that idealogy and started saying so what. Get yourself an attitude of so what and keep it moving. Look, if you burn the rice next time buy boil n bag rice, I mean who cares, right?
Somewhere we were taught that overextending ourselves was admirable, I’m here to tell you it’s not. It will wear you out and life will pass you by.
Be Present
The special moments with your family will have passed you by when you look up. While you are working to raise the family you will reflect and remember being tired and they will also remember you being too busy or preoccupied. I made the decision to change the way we do celebrations in our family. For those special days I used to clean the house bake the desserts shop for and cook dinner, get the gifts, and plan the event.
Listen, after typing that I became tired all over again!
We now order out and plan accordingly as a family. I was trying to bake their favorite cake and ended up too exhausted to watch them enjoy the cake! So basically, I was so busy being “Martha” when I should have been more like “Mary”.
In all transparency, I must say that I have been “Martha” most of my life. Doing the right thing, making sure everything is prepared and on point,all while missing out on what really matters, even before I had a family. See “Mary” put things aside to focus on what mattered. Mary chose to say to herself those other things can wait, what’s important is what’s in front of me. There is a time be like Martha and then there is a time to be like Mary. It’s up to us to identify when those times are, choose wisely, and proceed accordingly.
What I know for sure is that it’s never too late to start thinking this way. God is a redeemer of the time, and He will give you time to make new memories, just ask him. I did, and I am in great expectation of all that He has in store for me to enjoy in my life.
Lord, I know that all things work together for the good. I just want to thank you for being the redeemer of time. I decree and declare that everything that God promised me will prevail and I will not miss a thing.Everything that has my name on it shall find its way to me, and not a moment too late. Even the things that I thought I lost will be nothing compared to what you actually have instore for me. Everyone in my circle wins simply because you are in our midst. I thank you for giving me “hinds” feet and taking me further faster to redeem the time that I thought I lost.
I am grateful and I love you.
Amen
Today’s Takeaway:
Don’t be so busy checking off boxes that you miss out on the life that you have built. As you reflect on today, ask yourself two questions:
1. What moments do I need to become more present for?
2. What steps do I need to take to be present in the moment?
You know I’m always here cheering you on. I am so looking forward to us walking together and working even harder to simplify the chaos life tries to throw at us.
For more tips, and solutions grab a copy of my latest book, Simply Does It
Until we chat again, remember these 3 Things:
There’s always a solution.
You’ve got this.
It’s never too late.
Take Real Good Care of Yourself,
Coach Timeka